Entrepreneurs and others in business talk a lot about success. We even act as though we know what they are talking about. But the truth is, the definition of success varies between people, and unless you know what definition of success you are using, you won't be able to achieve it.
For example, for some folks, success is a specific amount of money earned. For others, it might be some sort of recognition. For still others, it might be a balanced life. Or time spent with family and friends. Or success might be making a difference in someone's life. The point is that unless you are perfectly clear about what success means to YOU, you might be chasing someone else's dream, not yours.
I see it all the time in my business, coaching entrepreneurs and business owners. They sign on to some expert's program with the promise of becoming successful, including making six figures or more. Sounds good, right? But the problem is that the expert's definition of success might not fit you. You can follow their blueprint, but if it doesn't really fit you--with your own definition of success--you most likely won't have lasting results.
Your definition of success has to fit you. What you consider successful needs to speak to YOUR values, YOUR dreams, YOUR desire, YOUR personality. Otherwise your success is incongruent with who you really are, and your success will be based upon being inauthentic.
I don't care how brilliant you are; if your success (personal or business) if based on things that don't really fit you, you will not be able to maintain it. Period.
To test this out, partner with a horse (your own or someone else's). Approach your horse at liberty in a pasture. When you are about 20 feet away, begin to tell the horse your definition of success and what you intend to do to get there. Continue walking closer as you speak, watching the horse's body language. If the horse moves away or turns his/her head away from you, this is a sign you are not being congruent. The horse doesn't have to understand complicated business plans to know that you are full of hooey. Try again. When you've got it, the horse is likely to relax and engage. Now you've got it. Your definition of success is congruent and really fits
Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a personal and business coach and owner of The Inner Resource Center, LLC. She has spent over 35 years helping people overcome obstacles to their success. She is a founding member of the Equine Experiential Education Association, a Level II E3A Advanced Certified Practitioner with a Specialty in Corporate Training, an E3A Master Trainer, and a Certified Master Practitioner and Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming. If you want help creating your successful, contact her at linda@InnerResourceCenter.com . Linda will also be presenting at the next Community Network Meeting NM5b: The Key to Success is Between Your Ears on May 26, 2016 at 7 pm Eastern. To register, click here.